Couples  Constantly Fighting?

Relationships are tough. We all know it is easy in the beginning when you have not discovered each others’ “faults”. Love in the beginning is a euphoric feeling that in a sense does numb you out from reality. When reality sets in and both persons get comfortable with each other it is very easy for trouble to come along. Today we will look at some quick and easy tips to make a relationship and/or marriage work.

Listen. Listen. Listen. You have to pay attention to your partner. If you do not listen to them and hear them out, then you will not be aware of what you need to do to keep them happy. Whether it’s listening to what happened during thier day or hearing them out when they are frustrated, pay attention to what they say. Follow up with questions to get more details about what they are saying and also to let them know that you are paying close attention. We as humans desire attention and we all like to feel special. Think about it next time you have the desire to tell your partner something and picture them ignoring you. It is not a good feeling. Now men and women are completely different, we all know that too well. So there may be times where each of you are talking about something that bears no interest to the other person. It is easy to zone out and not listen to the person, but this is bad because it develops a habbit. Soon you will zone out less and less and your partner will notice your attention span for him/her was diminished. Everyone desires attention and if the person does not get it from you, they will seek it somewhere else. We want to avoid any kind of negative separation.

Spend time alone with each other. We all get caught up in our lives. From work to hobbies…..even blogging : ) At times it could be that too much time is being spent apart from each other or there are other people constantly around you guys. Time alone with just the two of you is vital to the relationship. Time alone together does not mean both of you in bed, one reading a book and the other on the laptop. It means being together doing something together. Whether it be watching a TV show you BOTH enjoy and can share thoughts about. Things like playing a card game, looking at old photos, cooking/eating together, or even playing some Nintendo Wii. Interactivity is a key factor when you have your alone time together. Make it an important part of the day. Turn the cell phones off, turn off the Blackberry, make sure it will only be the two of you. I promise if you guys are meant for each other, you will appreciate this time of the day.

Help each other. In a household, if you guys live together, you each have roles. Im sure one of you usually cooks/cleans, the other may take care of the bills. There are obviously things that both of you do not like to do. Offer to help the other person or take over one of thier roles for them once in a while. Give the other person a break of a unlikeable duty. It will not only make the other person feel special, but it creates teamwork. Having the other person’s back and knowing that they can depend on you is very important. Do it randomly too, not just on their birthday (which u should anyways), but on a random day when they do not expect it. Surprises are always good and keep things exciting in a relationship. So help each other, you are partners right? Then be a team and give the other person a day off here and there.

Be affectionate. Hold each others hands as you walk down the aisle at Wal-Mart. Kiss each other good-bye before going to work. When you are lying in bed together, be sure to give one last kiss good night. Those small touches show care and love. Hug each other everyday, run your fingers through thier hair, touch thier face, enjoy thier beauty and show it to them. Hold each other while you watch TV or when you are at the movies. Small things like this can make a big difference. If you feel uncomfortable holding each other because it has been that long since you have, then try to fight the feeling. If you love each other, in no time you will feel the warmth again.

Last tip of today is going to be short and simple. Sometimes it is best to let your partner be “right”. Even though you may think they are totally wrong, sometimes it is not worth the arguement. Let them be “right” and just move on. You will appreciate the fact that you guys did not argue and fight.

So let us sum it up:

1. Listen attentively and pay attention to details.
2. Spend some alone time together away from the world.
3. Help each other with everyday activities and switch roles.
4. Be affectionate, show your love.
5. Let your partner be “right”.

I hope these tips help you out, because you deserve to be completely happy with your partner. If you have a personal situation and need someone to talk to, shoot me an email at alex@FreeEcstasy.com

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